Love... or Less?

First, it's important to know if you are in love or infatuated. We can't talk about love without knowing the difference between love and lust.

Lust may feel like love because your heart will race whenever they are around. You won't ever want to ever be away from them.It can feel like an addiction because you can't seem to get them out of your head.


You think about them all the time. You fantasize about what a relationship would be like with them. Basically, any feeling you form is all in your head. This can develope into unrequited love unless you can actually get to know the person and their true character. There is a tendency to build them up into someone they are not so when you do get to know them you "fall out of love" with them. Cause they can't compete with the fantasy.

It is not wrong to want someone. To desire someone. Where it goes wrong is when you build up a fantasy of this person, making it impossible for him/her to live up to.

The INFATUATION can be a long drawn out process. You can long for someone for years, thinking that it is love. It's true torture.

Everyone has at least some understanding of what love is.

Unfortunately, most of what people believe to be love is what is actually Conditional Love.

So let me begin by explaining the difference between Conditional and Unconditional Love.

Conditional Love is where you only love a person based on what they can give you in return for your affection.

Unconditional love is accepting a person flaws and all. To love someone without needing anything in return. Even when they don't love you. It requires a lot of self healing and acquiring self-love.

Self-Love is so important because you need to know your boundaries. If you are overgiving of yourself and don't have any boundaries people will take you for all that they can. They will take, take take, until there's nothing left to take. Leaving your proverbial cup empty.