Unrequited Love (What's the Purpose Behind It?)

The purpose behind feeling unrequited love is to find and achieve balance within yourself, to free yourself from codependency issues. To separate your feelings and find the truth of the underlying issue at hand. You are being Torn to Pieces so that you can put yourself back together. To heal and not cover up Old Wounds and behaviors. To discover your truth and to live and love unconditionally in it.

It begins when you are in a rut. There are feelings of loneliness that are attached to this feeling of unrequited love. You bring this heartache unconsciously into yourself. In a way, you yearn for it. You were lacking passion and love in your life and so you created it.

Our ancestral DNA needing clearing. What that means is you weren't the first in your lineage to experience the Heartbreak of loving someone who did not love you or return these feelings. It's in your bloodline because this is something that wants and needs to be healed and cleared out of your  ancestral lineage. If it doesn't then your daughter or your granddaughter or even your great-granddaughter will have to experience the same heartbreak that you are dealing with now. So that it can be cleared.

I don't know about you, but I would rather solve the problem then pass it down onto the shoulders of another.

Let's Travel back to when we were children to figure out how this all began. We grew up reading or watching stories of Happily Ever Afters. We played with Barbie dolls and played out a love story between a prince and a princess

At the very least a story of one where boy meets girl and the two fall in love

We romanticize Love. We crave it when we are young because it is how we survived. Your mother and your father loved and raised you. Even if you don't believe this now, you certainly did when you were little. From the beginning you depend on someone else to take care of you and II love you. You don't even realize that is what's being created is a pattern of codependency.

Now let's move up to a time when your teenager and you start to Branch out and explore the Romantic part of love. Once again, looking outside of yourself for it. But you don't know any better

This may be the first time you are discovering that you even do it

Now after the first time you fall in love and the first time that your heart is broken, this is where you either create a feeling of lack or you heal yourself by accepting how you feel and working through it. If you jump into another relationship to get over the first one then that's where you went wrong. No real healing has ever been done

You just slapped a band-aid on it and ignored it. So every time you got into a new relationship and then that relationship ended your pain moves out beneath the Band-Aid and made the wound fester and pus. Treat it heal it your body bags you. But you don't. You may numb the pain a little, with some alcohol or shut the cries of your bleeding-heart with some ice cream but you don't heal it

This pattern will continue until you go through something so heart-wrenching Lee painful you can't ignore it anymore period and what could possibly be any worse than finding love again but this time, it's with a person who doesn't love you. Doesn't even pretend to

And in all honesty, it's not a bad thing

So you start to wonder what's wrong with you that this person doesn't reciprocate your feelings

You start thinking of faults you have. This is ego talking. Like do you really think you don't hold importance in this world without the love of that person?

This is showing up as a sign of what needs healing. Your mind thoughts. You don't need to be tearing yourself down. You need to be self-accepting, self-appreciating, self-loving. Nursing and healing yourself take charge of these feelings

Now how is this affecting you energetically? We're going to talk about your chakras a little bit to explain.

Your sexual energies which are related to your sacral chakra are being suppressed and you build them up when you have fantasies about someone.

You have created instability in your root chakra by allowing someone else to loosen your foundation of who you are of your worth

It is no accident that you are experiencing unrequited love you have attracted this to you because of a self-love / heart chakra imbalance

By doing so you have affected your third eye chakra as well.Now you lack trust and you don't trust how you feel and how you see things. Because you believe that this person may truly love you but then there's this uncertainty because they're not showing you that they love you , quite possibly because they don't.

Now this can affect your throat chakra is well if you do not speak up to this person and tell them how you're feeling creating a block and your throat chakra energy field

And if you have spoken up and told this person how you feel and they don't reciprocate then you feel like you shouldn't have said anything and blocking the throat chakra off anyway because now you feel it is not safe to express your feelings

That it only creates problems

And the last part is your crown chakra you are beginning to feel disconnected. Because you don't know what's right and what's wrong anymore you're very confused and you don't know what way is up and which way is down because everything is all over the place.

                        How to heal this:

a.)Get an energy healing session because it is the fastest way for you to clear this because it originates in your chakras

Some things that will help you work with the energy of your chakras are :

Reiki
Yoga
Color therapy
Color therapy crystals
And anything else that involves working with your chakra Energies

b.) doing some inner work

* Don't close yourself off

Finding balance, which means to stop this unhealthy pattern. Don't put yourself back at the person's beck and call. Distance yourself

Stay persistent so that you don't give in and return to loving a person who doesn't love you back.

Write down your feelings and any fantasies that you may have been having about this person. Get them out so that they don't keep her playing in your head and tugging at your heart

Trusting yourself again. Third eye chakra. Trust that you are seeing this situation clearly. Don't think but what if they really love me? Or they do love me they just don't realize it yet. If I could just make them see. I just need them to realize it and everything will be ok. My feelings will be validated

Instead, get yourself outside and doing something fun to distract yourself. Once you fill up your free time it pushes away any thoughts of that person out of your head

These are ways of purifying or clearing yourself of these energies. Bring peace back into your being. This doesn't have to continue to drive you crazy. Get your feelings and frustrations out

Bring stability back into your life. Root Chakra

Clearing confusing thoughts and reestablishing a connection to love. Love comes from within. Trust that you will love again and that they will be deserving and receptive to your love. Reciprocating your feelings and surpassing whatever you could have ever imagined love to be.

Stay tuned for How does one achievee Self-Love?