Anger is a secondary emotion. What that means is there is always another underlying emotion that triggers the anger. They don't talk about that in the article, but it is something that I had learned in Counseling Techniques class taught by Jill Bainbridge. If you can stop and recognize the underlying emotion anger can definitely be beneficial, but it is also something that people try to avoid. It is taught in society that anger is bad, mainly because its not really anger they are referring to it is rage. Suppressed anger only leads to an eventual blow-up, which can be triggered by something that is meaningless and not the source of the rage.
Think about it. If you are picked on at school or work anger may be the emotion you first identify with, but you are feeling another emotion besides anger. Sad, hurt, humiliated. Suppressing your feelings will not help the situation. All it is doing is ignoring what has happened and is likely to happen again.
If you are angry in the moment and you express your anger, it is showing that you will not stand for whatever just happened.
In this article "Go Forth in Anger" by Joann Ellison Rodgers, it states that anger helps lead us to a solution because we are not running away we are running towards the problem.
Anger acts as a red flag that something is wrong it is a primal istinct to defend and protect. If someone sympathizes with you, he or she can even become angry on your behalf. People will either steer clear or you when you are angry, or they will try to help solve the problem that is making you angry. I think that is why toddler's go through their terrible two's. This is where they learn that throwing fits seem to get them what they want.
All in all, anger is a double-edged sword with benefits and drawbacks, but in life, there is always something good and something bad about something.
References:
Learning the Art of Helping: Building Blocks and Techniques (6th ed.) Young, Mark E. (2016)
Counseling Techniques class taught by Jill Bainbridge.
Internet References :
https://healthypsych.com/psychology-tools-what-is-anger-a-secondary-emotion/
https://www.sharecare.com/health/anger-management/how-can-anger-positive
https://www.spring.org.uk/2012/03/the-upside-of-anger-6-psychological-benefits-of-getting-mad.php
Think about it. If you are picked on at school or work anger may be the emotion you first identify with, but you are feeling another emotion besides anger. Sad, hurt, humiliated. Suppressing your feelings will not help the situation. All it is doing is ignoring what has happened and is likely to happen again.
If you are angry in the moment and you express your anger, it is showing that you will not stand for whatever just happened.
In this article "Go Forth in Anger" by Joann Ellison Rodgers, it states that anger helps lead us to a solution because we are not running away we are running towards the problem.
Anger acts as a red flag that something is wrong it is a primal istinct to defend and protect. If someone sympathizes with you, he or she can even become angry on your behalf. People will either steer clear or you when you are angry, or they will try to help solve the problem that is making you angry. I think that is why toddler's go through their terrible two's. This is where they learn that throwing fits seem to get them what they want.
All in all, anger is a double-edged sword with benefits and drawbacks, but in life, there is always something good and something bad about something.
References:
Learning the Art of Helping: Building Blocks and Techniques (6th ed.) Young, Mark E. (2016)
Counseling Techniques class taught by Jill Bainbridge.
Internet References :
https://healthypsych.com/psychology-tools-what-is-anger-a-secondary-emotion/
https://www.sharecare.com/health/anger-management/how-can-anger-positive
https://www.spring.org.uk/2012/03/the-upside-of-anger-6-psychological-benefits-of-getting-mad.php
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