Love is intoxicating. We all want it. Some may just be in denial of it. Love is a double-edged sword though while it is something that pleases you it is also something that causes great pain.
That's not what most people are thinking though when they say yes to marriage. They are thinking of their happily ever after. The dream that they always wanted. Some people are fortunate in finding the right person. Some people aren't
Marriage can be seen as something that brings happiness and stability into your life, but for some people, marriage is like a cage. It is not because you are supposed to stay loyal and only sleep with this one person for the rest of your life. No. Some people feel trapped in a marriage because there is abuse going on and they don't talk about it because they feel like they should have known. It's the shame that they feel that keeps them trapped in a loveless marriage. They don't want to admit that they are in a failed marriage.
These people believe in love and experience cognitive dissonance because they feel like they are in love but in reality, they are experiencing something else. They are likely in an abusive relationship and just don't want to admit it to themselves. The hardest thing that they will ever have to do is to fall in love again. They will see marriage as a cage. A trap.
It's a scary experience if you marry the wrong person. If two people love each other and want to be together, I don't see the need for a legal piece of paper to say that they want to spend the rest of their lives together.
Resources:
When Loving Him is Hurting You by David Hawkins
Internet resources:
https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/emotional_abuse/
https://www.thelist.com/60293/know-youre-emotionally-abusive-relationship/
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